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Frequently Asked Questions

What is EFT?

EFT is Emotionally Focused Therapy, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. It is an attachment-based, experiential form of therapy that incorporates the therapist as a “secure base”, a safe person to express scary emotions to, while you are building safety within the relationship. EFT targets emotional responses so that new communication patterns can be developed between you and your partner. There are many different kinds of therapy, and EFT incorporates several models. For more information on EFT, click here.

How long is each session?

Sessions are 45- 60 minutes. There are options to meet for longer periods and we will decide on this option together.

What do we do in our sessions?

We begin with a telling of your story, what brought you together, and a detailed relationship and attachment history for each of you, completed in individual sessions. From there, we build a plan for you that includes foundational communication skills - you’d be doing this if you knew how but you were probably never taught -  and a roadmap from where you are to where you want to be, meaning we work together to identify what EFT refers to as your “negative cycle”, the pattern in which you are stuck, and how to take corrective steps toward emotional safety together. The focus of each session isn’t on the content of your arguments but on the underlying needs you have from your partner. In other words, regardless of what you are arguing about, big or small things, your cycle of communication is the same. Identifying and correcting that cycle is what we work on in each session.

Here are some specific areas we will explore together:

  • Secure Attachment and Your Inner Child

  • Being Emotionally Mature (Owning Your Stuff)

  • Relationship Injury Repair

  • Self-Compassion (Busting Up Shame)

  • Sex and Pleasure, (Yes, Please!)

How do I know when I’m ‘done’?

There is not a set length or number of sessions for therapy or a clear line that says, “FINISH” that you cross. There are several stages in the EFT model and we will communicate about where you are in the process together in sessions. Generally speaking, when you are communicating from a neutral emotional space and know what your negative communication cycle is, we move into deeper emotional work that gets you both reengaged and feeling safe being vulnerable. People often come to therapy with the goal of making negative emotions and experiences disappear, which sounds great but isn’t possible. The goal of our work is not to completely eliminate negative feelings but to create safety in your relationship so that you can talk about them together and ask for what you need.

Can I bring my spouse/partner?

Absolutely! I offer both individual and couples counseling; see more about our offerings here. Relationship/Couples work is done together, and individuals can bring their partner in for a session from time to time as part of our therapy.

if we do couples sessions, can I also see you as an individual?

Experience has taught me that best practice is to not do both regularly, because it can make our sessions less safe for the other partner. Your relationship is my client; individual sessions will be scheduled with each partner from time to time, in the context of couples work. I can offer referrals for therapy with trusted colleagues.

What if my partner doesn’t think they have a problem?

This is a great question and one that comes up A LOT in consultations. With attachment-focused therapy, there is not a focus on “problems” but an exploration about what unmet needs each of you have that is causing the feeling of “stuckness” in your cycle of communication. So, I would agree that they have no problem, and neither do you. Both of you have unmet needs and you don’t know how to communicate these needs with one another.

We have lots of problems, can you help?

I will give you my best effort and the wisdom of my experience! I often work with couples with specific issues that create more complexity, including addiction, infidelity repair and tough conversations about sex and intimacy, core desires and how to ask for what you want in the bedroom. You have my word that If you do not think I am your best fit, I will get you connected with another therapist from my network!

What if we don’t know if we even want to stay together?

It’s ok to not know. Our time together will be an exploration into your needs and desires, and the unmet attachment needs you likely are not aware you have. What I know to be true is that if you have the courage and willingness to come to therapy together, your relationship matters to you. This is a great starting place. 

Do you take insurance?

I am out of network with all insurance companies and will provide you with a monthly Superbill for reimbursement.

Do you do in person sessions, or virtual only?

I am available for virtual sessions throughout the state of Georgia and in-office sessions at 5991 Parkway North Boulevard, Cumming GA 30040.